Whatever you say,

does it really matter?


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It’s A Lifestyle Not A Diet

HappyWomanSunriseEnlightened-850x400On a journey…a journey to wellness if you will. I actually started a few months ago and just now getting around to writing a blog about it.  It’s been a long time coming.  It has had its setbacks over time but I am on the road…the right road and all I can say is this:  It feels damn good!

This journey involves a huge transformation, an overhaul of my life and lifestyle, a preparation for livelihood, for my future children, for my future husband and family and for all that is to come.

The journey involves addressing several areas/things in my life.  We all love lists, don’t we?  Ta-dah! Here is a list of the things of my GOALS (thinking, feeling and writing in the positive):

√-Nicotine-free
-Decrease stress levels and how to it handle it
-More nights with 6+ hours of sleep
-Weight loss (25 lbs)- down 113#
-Eliminate chronic back pain
√-Healthy eating
√-Decrease alcohol intake
√-Be more active

Simple, right?  Not so much.  I am successful most days than others. I have my ups and downs.   I may be great for a couple of weeks and then not for a few.  What’s the saying?  It takes three weeks to form a habit or something like that.  I always seem to fail right around that time period.  But I don’t kick myself in the rear for daily failures.  I don’t let it stop me. I accept them and start over the next day and try to do better.  I remind myself this is a process and it WILL take time to get where I want and NEED to be.  It helps to have the support of a person (or a few) you can make yourself accountable to.  I know.  I know.  Please don’t get upset me.  I know you should make yourself accountable to no one but yourself.  Meh.  Doesn’t work so well with me.  It may work when I get to my “maintain” state, where I am doing things like it’s a reflex, like it’s natural, like duh.  So don’t mind me if in the meantime, I lean on my “coach” who provides just the right amount of support, encouragement to keep me motivated on this journey to wellness.  What better way than to have a holistic health coach at your side.  Seriously, if you need a boost, you need to contact him here.   He is one amazing, knowledgeable coach and I don’t know what I would do without him.  He is always there when I have a question or need to get back on track with my journey.  Side note:   I am not getting paid for any of this.

So join me on my journey to wellness.  To keep me accountable, I’m going to start blogging about how it’s going, new healthy recipes, and to keep it real, my struggles and successes. Here’s to wellness!


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What Your Relationship Needs from You

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All relationships require work.  They don’t just materialize and maintain themselves, and they aren’t built on a foundation of convenience either.  They take time and patience and two people who are willing to put in the effort.

Here’s how to do your part – nine things your relationships need from you:

1.  Attention

Neglect based on lack of attention damages relationships far more often than malicious abuse.  There’s nothing more vital to the bond you share with others than simply being there for them.

When we pay attention to each other we breathe new life into each other.  With frequent attention and affection our relationships flourish, and we as individuals grow stronger.  This is the side effect of a good relationship – we help heal each other’s wounds and support each other’s strengths.

Bottom line:  Stay in close touch with those who matter to you – communicate openly on a regular basis.  Not because it’s convenient, but because these people are worth the extra effort.

2.  Trust

The entire fabric of our society – people working, living and breathing together – relies on the positive beliefs we have about each other – a subtle, inherent trust.  This trust is the glue that holds every peaceful civilization together.  Which is why trust is the greatest compliment you can give a person, even greater than love.

The only way to build this trust, or find out if someone is trustworthy, is to trust them.  When you do, without a doubt, you’ll automatically get one of two results:  A friend for life or a lesson for life.  Either way the outcome is positive – you determine which relationships are worth your long-term attention. 

3.  Honesty

When your intentions are good and your cause is just, honesty will always help you.  When your heart is open to love and truth, your lips will not utter lies that haunt you.  When people are honest with each other up front, the truth may hurt sooner, but the suffering always dies faster, and out of this suffering comes growth.

Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed.  Be honest about what you want a relationship and how you want to be treated.  Be honest with every aspect of your relationships, always.

The bottom line is that relationships don’t hurt.  Lying, cheating and twisting reality until it screws with someone’s emotions is what hurts.  Never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of your own.  If you are unsure in any way, be sure to say so.  Always be open and honest.

4.  Loyalty

Stand by those you care about in their darkest moments, not because you want to stand in the dark, but because you don’t want them to either.  Brave the shadows alongside them until they’re able to find the light.  On the flipside, stand by these same people on their sunniest days, not because you want to scorch your skin, but because you’re not afraid to let them shine bright.

In other words, be loyal.  You can’t promise to be there for someone for the rest of their life, but you can sincerely be there for them for the rest of yours.  When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority.  Loyalty means the world.

5.  Teamwork

The most important trip you will ever take in life is meeting others half way.  You will achieve far more by working with people, rather than working alone or against them.

That’s what healthy relationships are all about – teamwork.  The strength of every relationship depends on the strength of its members, and the strength of each member depends on the quality of their relationships.

Anyone who helps you to make your half-hearted attempts more whole-hearted through passion, love and teamwork, is a precious friend and teacher.  They are part of your dream team.  These people are out there.  Connect with them and conquer the world together. 

6.  Acceptance

There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship.  Even if it seems perfect now, it won’t always be.  Imperfection, however, is real and beautiful.  It’s how two people accept and deal with the imperfections of a relationship that make it ideal.

The quality of the happiness between two people grows in direct proportion to their acceptance, and in inverse proportion to their intolerance and expectations.  They must appreciate their similarities and respect their differences.

7.  Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of the greatest virtues to which you should always seek.  Imagine if everyone you knew was willing both to apologize and to accept an apology.  Is there any problem that you all would not be able to solve?

The willingness to admit that we are all human, and to forgive sincerely, is a sign of your emotional strength and maturity.  Ultimately, this forgiveness is for you.  It sets you free from the shackles of the past so you can take the future in stride, regardless of whether you choose to bring certain people along for the ride.

Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did is OK.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did ruin my happiness forever.”

Forgiveness is YOUR remedy.

8.  Empathy

Sometimes we feel as though the world is crashing down around us, as if the pain we are experiencing is unique only to us in this moment.  This, of course, is far from the truth.  In fact, the very demons that torment each of us torment others all over the world.  It is our challenges and pain that connect us at the deepest level.  We are all in this together and we should treat each other as such.

If you think about the people who have had the greatest positive effect on your life – the ones who truly made a difference – you will likely realize that they aren’t the ones that tried to give you all the answers or solve all your problems.  They’re the ones who sat silently with you when you needed a moment to think, who lent you a shoulder when you needed to cry, and who tolerated not having all the answers, but stood beside you anyway.  Be this person for the people you care about.

9.  Self Love

Relationships don’t create joy, they reflect it.  Joy comes from within.  Relationships are simply mirrors of the combined joy that two people have as individuals.  What you see in the mirror is what you see in your relationships.  Your disappointment in others perfectly reflects your disappointment in yourself.  Your acceptance of others perfectly reflects your acceptance of yourself.  Thus, the first step to having healthy relationship with anyone else is to have a healthy relationship with yourself.

You are powerful and beautiful when you love yourself.  So get up, look in the mirror and say, “I love you, and I mean it!”

Also, respect yourself enough to never feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life.  It doesn’t matter whether these people are relatives, romantic interests, coworkers, old friends, or new acquaintances – you don’t have to make room in your life for people who make you feel like you’re less than you are.

From: Marc And Angel


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Living Life

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You’ve got to dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth.


―William W. Purkey


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Taking It All In

Sitting at UCSF, 400 Parnassus, 2nd floor, in the Pediatric Specialties Clinic.  There are children running around in the waiting room.  There are people eating Panda Express next to me, a few seats away.  It makes me feel a little hungry since I’ve only had my Grande Triple Toffee Nut Nonfat Latte this morning and it’s almost 11:0am.  There is a movie on the television for the children to watch but I think the adults are more into it.  There are giggles coming from the far left corner from a child playing with what I imagine would be his older brother, could be a young father.  Which ever it is, their bond is amazing.  You should see the smiles on their faces.  It radiates love and joy and warms my heart.  I find myself smiling at them while the little boy hangs upside down from the older boys shoulders.  How a simple act can make someone so ecstatic.  There is a bustle behind the reception desk as employees talk and patients check-in and out.  There is so much going on in front of me but then it all seems to disappear as I see this view behind me.

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The sun is shining and there are blue skies.  But don’t let it fool you, it’s 48 degrees.  While it’s one of the coldest winters San Francisco has had or I have experienced, it is refreshing.  Invigorating.  Inviting.  Inspiring.  Cleansing.  It drowns out all the noise behind me and takes me into a quiet, peaceful, zen place.  I forget just for a brief moment, I am surrounded by suffering children and worried parents.  I yearn for the moment I can take a step out of this building and take a deep breath of crisp winter air.  When you own your breath, nobody can steal your peace.


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My Wish For You…

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Before you pop the champagne and celebrate the New Year, stop and reflect on the year that has gone by.  Remember both our triumphs and our missteps. Our promises made and broken. The times we’ve opened ourselves to great adventures or closed ourselves down for fear of getting hurt. Because that is what New Year’s is all about. Getting another chance. A chance to forgive, to do better, to do more, to give more, to love more.  And stop worrying about what if and start embracing what will be. So when that ball drops at midnight, let’s remember to be nice to each other, kind to each other.  Not just tonight but all year long.

New Year’s Eve


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Pinterest Mantel Inspiration

My sister saw this on pinterest and wanted to recreate it.

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My sister has a frame she bought years ago that she wanted to use. So I recreated the sign on a canvas to fit inside the frame. I went to Hobby Lobby and bought the following:
1. Canvas 14×18
2. Acrylic Paint in Gold and Antique White
3. Brush
4. Sticky letters of varying sizes

I totally forgot to take step by step pictures but it’s pretty easy to do. Here are the steps:
1. I painted the canvas with gold (the color I wanted the words) and let dry.
2. I then placed the letters/words onto the canvas and pressed down to ensure a tight seal.
3. I went over the canvas and letters with the antique white and let dry.
4. Once completely dried, I peeled off the letters.
5. I touched up the words with gold where needed.

Here is the finished product:

Here is the mantel:

I think it turned out pretty good for my first DIY!  What do you think?