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does it really matter?

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A Change Not Involving Weight Loss


Because we hard on ourselves to be an “ideal weight.”
Because the media shows a thin model as ideal.
Because the media tells you you’re overweight or obese.
Because the BMI scale is ridiculous.
Because Photoshop exists.
Because you have low self-esteem.
Because peer pressure is inevitable.
Because people judge.

I have never considered myself “fat,” “overweight,” “chunky,” “plump,” “large,” “chubby,” or whatever word you choose to describe your weight.  I always fluctuate 10 lbs up or down and I am fine with that.  One day, I went to the doctor, was weighed and inserted on the lovely BMI scale.  Guess what?  I was one…ONE…pound away from being overweight. I got the stern warning I “need to watch it” or “lose some weight.” That dang BMI scale is ridiculous.  Here how ridiculous it is:

I can weigh 132 lbs at my top weight (133 lbs makes me overweight)
I can weigh 98 lbs at my low weight (97 lbs makes me under weight).

Do those numbers look right to you?  Ninety eight pounds!!!  This is what 98 lbs looks like!


Oh let me count my ribs and other bones I can see.  This is more like an eating disorder than a healthy, ideal weight the media keeps pushing on us.  Ideal according to who?  Who are these people?  Who is making us so crazy with being overweight?  I even have a scale at home that tells me I am overweight every time I weigh myself!  Damn thing doesn’t work properly.  No, seriously!  It doesn’t.  No matter how much I lose, I am always the same percentage of body fat.  But when I gain weight, it goes up.  It’s ridiculous just like the BMI scale.  Built in BMI scales at home are even worse.  So do me a favor, ignore the overweight part of the BMI scale.  See for yourself  here.  Play with weight to see how low you can go before hitting 18.9 and how high to reach 25.  It’s a very large range.  Side note:   Obesity is a serious concern which has many negative effects on your health.  I am discussing being “overweight” not obese.

Yes, I am on a wellness journey. Yes, it happens to include weight loss.  But my reasons for weight loss is not because I am “almost” overweight (thank you BMI scale).  Not for any reasons drilled in our heads throughout the day, everyday.  My reasons are simple: for my future husband and children.  What better reason than that?  I can’t think of one.  It’s simple and white picket fence ideal: I want to be a mother!  I want to run, play and most importantly be alive and present with my husband and children.

You see, I was blessed with large breasts, as well as ALL THE WOMEN in my family.  In addition to large breasts, I suffer from horrible back pain (upper but especially lower) from a previous work injury and surgery.  When I went to the doctor to complain, he and two specialists responded…drum roll please…”Lose weight.”    Yes, you read that right.  Lose weight was the end all cure for my back pain.  I AM NOT OVERWEIGHT!  I JUST HAVE LARGE BREASTS is what I wanted to scream.  With a  little motivation and inspiration from Jared, I aim to: budge the weight in my breasts to alleviate back pain and strengthen my lower back and abs in order to carry my children in-utero and always.  I am sure many of you are sitting there screaming at your screen saying, “Get a breast reduction.”   I will if my weight loss doesn’t alleviate my back pain AFTER I have children NOT before.

Instead of focusing on less of something, let’s add more.  More of anything that makes you feel good, whole, relaxed, and not guilty.   For one moment in time, let’s step away from being so hard on ourselves, from the scales, media and from the pressure.  There are so many things we can change about ourselves that don’t involve weight loss and MindBodyGreen couldn’t have said it better.

Continuing the journey…


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It’s A Lifestyle Not A Diet

HappyWomanSunriseEnlightened-850x400On a journey…a journey to wellness if you will. I actually started a few months ago and just now getting around to writing a blog about it.  It’s been a long time coming.  It has had its setbacks over time but I am on the road…the right road and all I can say is this:  It feels damn good!

This journey involves a huge transformation, an overhaul of my life and lifestyle, a preparation for livelihood, for my future children, for my future husband and family and for all that is to come.

The journey involves addressing several areas/things in my life.  We all love lists, don’t we?  Ta-dah! Here is a list of the things of my GOALS (thinking, feeling and writing in the positive):

-Decrease stress levels and how to it handle it
-More nights with 6+ hours of sleep
-Weight loss (25 lbs)- down 113#
-Eliminate chronic back pain
√-Healthy eating
√-Decrease alcohol intake
√-Be more active

Simple, right?  Not so much.  I am successful most days than others. I have my ups and downs.   I may be great for a couple of weeks and then not for a few.  What’s the saying?  It takes three weeks to form a habit or something like that.  I always seem to fail right around that time period.  But I don’t kick myself in the rear for daily failures.  I don’t let it stop me. I accept them and start over the next day and try to do better.  I remind myself this is a process and it WILL take time to get where I want and NEED to be.  It helps to have the support of a person (or a few) you can make yourself accountable to.  I know.  I know.  Please don’t get upset me.  I know you should make yourself accountable to no one but yourself.  Meh.  Doesn’t work so well with me.  It may work when I get to my “maintain” state, where I am doing things like it’s a reflex, like it’s natural, like duh.  So don’t mind me if in the meantime, I lean on my “coach” who provides just the right amount of support, encouragement to keep me motivated on this journey to wellness.  What better way than to have a holistic health coach at your side.  Seriously, if you need a boost, you need to contact him here.   He is one amazing, knowledgeable coach and I don’t know what I would do without him.  He is always there when I have a question or need to get back on track with my journey.  Side note:   I am not getting paid for any of this.

So join me on my journey to wellness.  To keep me accountable, I’m going to start blogging about how it’s going, new healthy recipes, and to keep it real, my struggles and successes. Here’s to wellness!

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It’s Never #Quiet


It’s Never Quiet

I live in San Francisco.  
I live in a house near a busy street, where buses and cars travel all day and night.
I live near two schools and a probation center. 
I live in a house where the TV is always on.
I live in an old house that settles all the time.
I work in a busy office building on the fifth floor.
I work in a cubicle where people don’t know what it means to be quiet.
I wear headphones and listen to music Monday through Friday 8-4 to drown out the background noise.  Ironic, I know.
I drive a car through traffic.
Cars.  Motorcycles.  Very loud ones. 
Muni. Underground trains. 
Garbage trucks.  Street sweepers.  Lawn mowers.  Leaf blowers.
Homeless people.
People.  Lots of them. 
Talking.  Screaming. Laughing.
Birds chirping. 
Dogs barking.
Cats meowing.  Cats in heat.
Wind and rain. 
Dishwasher. Wash machine.  Dryer.  Vacuum. 
Alarm clock.
Coffee maker. 
Ringing phones. 
Heart beating.
It’s never quiet.
How do you find quiet in all the #noise?  

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Single Woman’s Bucket List…Update!

lens1960483_1313388179bucket_listBack in November 2011, I wrote a “Single Woman’s Bucket List, based on an article in Glamour and when I was single.  I am no longer single.  However, I thought it was a good time to review this list, make some changes (indicated in bold) and give some updates (indicated  in italics).  Here it goes….

To Build Your Confidence…

1. Go to a movie alone.

2. Work out regularly.  It doesn’t have to be the gym but do something active DAILY.  

3. Try surfing, water-skiing, or some activity you don’t already know how to do. Could be riding a bicycle.  I think I should tackle this little problem I have of open waters.  

4. Take out the trash, set a mousetrap, do your taxes, build a bookcase.

5. Live alone.

6. Train for (and finish) a huge physical test like a half-marathon.

7. Go to a scary doctor’s appointment by yourself.

8. Quit your job. It feels so good to take a job and shove it (and not be affecting anyone else’s livelihood).

9. Fly to a foreign country by yourself.  I have flown to Mexico several times alone.  I know it’s not so foreign but it counts, right?

10. Learn to stand up for yourself.

To Be Able to Look Back and Say “I Had Fun”…

11. Witness something once-in-a-lifetime, like Jokulsarlon, a lake next to a melting glacier in Iceland.

12. Do something daring, like sky diving or bungee jumping.  I bought a living social deal to sky dive so I am committed to doing it now.  Yikes! 

13. Get drunk during the day, just because you can.

14. Go on a date with someone who actually makes you nervous. This happened on March 16, 2013.  I thought I was going to throw up for the first hour of the date.  

15. Go out with an older man who takes you somewhere nice and makes you feel like a million bucks.

16. Go out with a guy who makes you laugh ‘til it hurts. This too happened on my date mentioned in #14 and has happened every day since.

To Get Perspective…

17.  Be a good wingwoman. It’s not always about you.

18. Go a day or a week without using the Internet or social media.  

19. Volunteer.

To Make You Appreciate the Next Guy…

20. Do at least one Valentine’s Day alone.  I had a “Single Awareness
Party on Valentine’s Day.  Everyone who was single had to bring someone else to the party that was single of the opposite sex.  Good times! 

21. Attend a wedding (or 15) alone.

22. Date the creeps. You’ll really value the nice guys afterward. I am officially done dating the creeps.  Never again! I can say I have found quit the gentleman.  See #14 and #16 above.   Hmmm, maybe I should write a blog about this magical March 14th date and how it all began.  It’s quite a story.   

To Make You Feel Sexy and Attractive…

23. Buy yourself some flowersIt’s part of my weekly shopping at Trader Joe’s.  I even decided to pick some flowers from my backyard, which smell heavenly and which I didn’t realize existed since I NEVER go into my backyard.  I know.  That’s weird, right?  Oh well.   

24. Invest in a LBD (little black dress) and some sexy stilettos. I have several little black dresses and seriously need to stop shopping online. 

25. Sit at a bar by yourself and drink a martini. Cool. I’d like to cross this one off as completed because I have done this several times while my friends go outside to smoke and left me there for a LOOOONG time.  I don’t care what you say, it counts! 😀 

26. Buy something frivolous and expensive that you LOVE wearing.

To Make the Most of Your Free Time…

27. Finish all your schooling if you can. Not that it was ever my goal to go to grad school, but I did.  But I will never stop learning and considering going back again and getting another Master’s degree.  I am such an over achiever.  😀 

28. Throw yourself into something time-consuming, like learning a foreign language. You may not have time to do this again until you retire and the kids are off to college.  I registered online at Duolingo to learn Spanish.  It’s free! 

To Make Yourself a Better Partner in the Future…

29. Make a list of all your faults.  I haven’t made a list but we sure have talked about it.  Maybe I will start a list just to make sure I am not forgetting anything.  

30. Learn to cook well. Spaghetti and Meatballs anyone?  

31. Get some hobbies. Something’s gotta keep you occupied—plus it’ll make you seem interesting. Blogging and scrap booking are it! 

32. Let your married friends edit your online dating profile.  Even though I do not have an online dating profile, I decided to leave this one for those of you who do.  It sounds interesting and honest!

33. Get your finances in order.   I am officially out of debt and it feels  AH-MAZING.  I will no longer buy anything I cannot pay cash for.  No cash.  No buying.  No exceptions! It’s the rule! 

To Appreciate Being Single…

34. Babysit someone’s baby for an hour.

35. Help a friend through her divorce or a bad break-up.  I was there for her and she was there for me.  

36. Host a girls-only night. I think some coupled-up women forget how much we need each other.

I don’t think I did so bad.  There are still things on the list I will knock out!

Next: Pre-Baby Bucket List! Ideas? 


#SanFrancisco #Tourism

Millions of people flock to San Francisco to see the famous Golden Gate Bridge or the Painted Ladies as seen in Full House.  These beautiful sites are right outside my door.  So I was excited to be a tourist in my beautiful city in which I was born and raised in.

I recently had a six day staycation and became a tourist.  The question is, what to do or not to do?  For example, if you have an out-of-town guest visiting for the first time EVER and for a short amount of time, what attractions do you see or what things do you do in order to capture how amazing San Francisco is without being overwhelmed?  I limited this staycation to a few major activities/attractions that I felt captured my city.  I have to admit, I’ve lived here my entire life and I am embarrassed to say there are some things I haven’t done or seen, like ride a cable car.  Oh! Did I just admit that out loud?  I’ve been on one just not one in motion. But don’t fear, I will do it and post lots of pictures of it when I do.  Yes, I am one of those people.

I wanted to start the staycation off with a view of San Francisco.  Twin Peaks is right up the street from my house, so this was our first stop.

twin-peaks-market-street-v2Photo from SFTravel

So here is how we spent our six day staycation.

Night 1: California Academy of Sciences

This is by far one of my favorite places in San Francisco set in the beauty of Golden Gate Park.  It has an aquarium, a planetarium, a natural history museum and more.  While this is a great place for children to explore and enjoy, the Academy has “Nightlife at the Academy,” every Thursday night for adults only.  The pros are:  it is cheaper, alcohol is served, no children, and less crowded.  I have been here several times during the day with my nieces and nephews but never at night for Nightlife.  It was a great experience and I highly recommend it!

Day 1: Pier 39/Fisherman’s Wharf

We walked around the Pier, saw the sea lions, observed Alcatraz from land and had lunch at Boudin’s. You cannot go to the Wharf and not have clam chowder in a bread bowl. Yummy!  After lunch, we went to the Wax Museum (only because I found a living social deal) and Ripley’s Believe it or Not Museum (which a friend highly recommended).  My recommendation, skip the wax museum and definitely go to Ripley’s. Most wax figures did NOT look like the people.  I left most of the figures saying, “Who was that?”  If it wasn’t for the name displays, I would have left there very confused. Ripley’s had some really cool things.  This being one of them:


Day 2: Golden Gate Park

You can spend the entire day in Golden Gate Park, which is larger than New York’s Central Park.  There is so much to do and see there.  Some of the attractions being the California Academy of Sciences, De Young Museum, Conservatory of Flowers, Japanese Tea Garden, many other gardens, the bisons, Legion of Honor, a carousel and park. We decided to kept it low-key and had a picnic at Stow Lake.  After lunch, we walked around the lake and did a little hike.

IMG_2557Day 3 and 4: Monterey Overnight

One thing I love most about San Francisco is being so close to take weekend getaways.  Want to go skiing? Lake Tahoe is only four hours away.  Want to have a romantic weekend?  Monterey is only two hours.  We headed to Monterey for an overnight stay taking the drive down Highway 1 with amazing coastal views.  Of course, if this is your first time visiting Monterey, you want to check out the Monterey Bay Aquarium.  We passed on it and felt, you’ve seen one aquarium, you’ve seen them all.  Plus, we just saw the aquarium at the California Academy of Sciences and the Monterey Bay Aquarium can be quite expensive depending on how many guests you are entertaining.  If there was more time, we would have stayed a few days in Carmel and Big Sur.


Day 5:

We spent the day driving to famous attractions which included the Golden Gate Bridge, the Painted Ladies, the crooked street on Lombard Street, Coit Tower, and the Palace of Fine Arts.

IMG_2586The Golden Gate Bridge

IMG_2598The Painted Ladies

IMG_2568The Crooked Street (this picture sucks)

IMG_2587Coit Tower

IMG_2597The Palace of Fine Arts


Day 6: Ocean Beach

We lucked out with warm weather during this staycation and decided to end it with a day at the beach.  While there are many gorgeous beaches to visit in the Bay Area, we stayed near home and went to Ocean Beach (which is ten minutes from my house).  After the beach, we went to Mitchell’s Ice Cream, which is a must for any ice cream lovers! Just check out the Yelp reviews yourself.

IMG_2602What would you do and see if you visited San Francisco?

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Power Struggle


“It shouldn’t be easy to be amazing. Then everything would be. It’s the things you fight for and struggle with before earning that have the greatest worth. When something’s difficult to come by, you’ll do that much more to make sure it’s even harder – or impossible – to lose.”


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Soul Mates



When two souls fall in love, there is nothing else but the
yearning to be close to the other.  The presence that is felt
through a hand held, a voice heard, or a smile seen.

Souls do not have calendars or clocks, nor do they understand
the notion of time or distance.  The only know it feels right to
be with one another.

This is the reason why you miss someone so much when they
are not there— even if they are only in the very next room.
Your soul only feels their absence— it doesn’t realize the
separation is temporary.


Can I ask you something?
Why is it every time we say goodnight, it feels like goodbye?
– Lang Leav


Soul Mates

I don’t know how it is you are so familiar to me – or why it feels less that I’m getting to know you and more as though I am remembering who you are. How every smile,  and every whisper brings me to the impossible conclusion that I have known you before, I have loved you before- in another time, a different place, I guess,some other existence. -Lang Leav